The difference between a close friendship and a relationship, in most cases, is physical intimacy.

No matter if you are married, de facto, living in separate houses, or just dating ... when there is a connection beyond just friendship, a marked shift in the emotional connection takes place. 

This shift brings a complete set of new dynamics in to play, and affects every aspect of the relationship.

All people see and experience life differently. Men and women, in particular, are fundamentally programmed very differently. This is evident in how we think, communicate and behave - but these differences often only become truly evident, and potentially show stoppers, once we are in a relationship.

The closer we get to someone, the more inflexible we can become, acting in ways based on our 'true' self - often in ways that are thoughtless, hurtful or selfish. 

These behaviours can often be traced back to childhood experiences and can be the complete opposite of what a relationship requires to succeed.

 At NorthSide Counselling we have been specialising in couple counselling for over 10 years, and continue to update our materials and methodologies in line with international best practices.

You will find on this website a range of materials and articles designed to help both the couple and the individual. Unless we are happy in our selves, we can't be in a healthy and happy relationship.

If there is anything you would like to discuss with us, please don't hesitate to call. We are happy to chat about your situation with no pressure to make an appointment.

You need to feel comfortable with your counsellor, because if there is no rapport and trust, then the work we do with you won't be so effective.